Are you being mean to yourself?

Are you being mean to yourself?

With the media telling us that we have to be ‘perfect’ to be happy, it’s no wonder we don’t feel good enough. It becomes understandable that we ‘buy in’ to buying stuff we really don’t want or need. Combine the repetition of the media’s messages with our negative self-talk and it’s no wonder that we as a society suffer from low self-esteem and unhappiness.


So what’s one to do about it?


My first recommendation is go on a media diet. Focus on consuming books, mp3s, videos, etc. that make you feel good. Take in stuff that makes you smile.

Secondly, trying to be nicer to yourself. When you find yourself criticizing yourself, stop and ask yourself, “Would I say that to my friend, in that tone of voice?” Probably not. Practice speaking to yourself in the way that you would speak to a friend. Be more understanding.

Thirdly, stop expecting perfection of yourself. Think about it. Have you ever done this before? Can you remember being human before? Granted some of us have snippets of recall of past lives. However, they’re only snippets. The truth is that this is the first time we’ve ever been in this body, at this time, on this earth, with these people in this situation. We need to treat ourselves as we do small children. We don’t expect babies or children to get it perfect the first time! It’s unfair to expect perfection from ourselves.

I find it best to give something a try for a week to see if it makes a difference.

If they do work for you, you’ll find that your overall vibration will rise and you’ll naturally attract people and experiences that mirror this better feeling place.

Have fun with these ideas!



Would you like to boost your confidence?

Would you like to boost your confidence?


If you’re like most people, there’s probably an area in your life where you’d like to boost your confidence. And here’s the good news… increasing one’s confidence is much easier than you might imagine.

Most of us have tried all sorts of strategies to deal with the critical voices that erode our confidence. You know the ones that tell us that were not enough, that we’re unworthy or undeserving. And often times we don’t even hear a verbal message but are just flooded with the emotions of insecurity and fear.

One of the most effective ways to deal with these negative voices and emotions is to remind ourselves…

  1. this is simply a program that’s been activated,
  2. and this program is animated by MY Lifeforce, and
  3. and this Lifeforce is caught up in this program.

Doing this helps reduce the emotional charge and makes it easier to move into a more neutral position. Once you’re feeling a little more centered then…

  1. do your best to access the feeling of compassion,
  2. with each exhalation imagine breathing this compassion into that aspect of yourself that feels insecure,
  3. breathe compassion until you feel better about yourself

If your critical voices are really loud it can be quite difficult to access compassion to calm all this noise down. If you really want to be free quickly you may want to consider a private session.

In the meantime, be gentle with yourself, and breathe.



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